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     This page contained the Ebooks that I wrote with my twin sister, Jessica Blackman Freedman, with the exception of You Are The Product, How To Sell Yourself to Employers." A few years ago, after a lot of difficulties with Ebooks suppliers, I decided to pull down this information and sales page.  However, I will be offering these books again as print-on-demand versions. If you are interested in any of these titles, please email me requesting prices and details, via our  Contact Form

"THE HOT ONES" Hot Singles! Hot Dates! Hot Nights! by Alison Blackman Dunham (aka. "Advice Sister Alison")  and Jessica Blackman Freedman, 34 Pages When you're seriously dating, the last thing you want is to waste an evening out not meeting anyone "good." THE ADVICE SISTERS® know the best dates come from doing many activities--ones you enjoy --not going to places you don't want to be,  or doing things you don't like to do!  This little guide offers fun and unique ideas, places, and ways to meet great people that you haven't tried yet. Check out the great sections on personal ads and internet dating!  SAMPLE: 10 Terrific Tips to Tackle That First Contact: 1. Call or agree to talk only when you've actually got the time. If you've got only eight minutes before you have to make the bus, you can't be relaxed. 2. Make the call when you're alone or when you’re unlikely to be interrupted. Ask: "Is this a good time for us to talk? 3. Have the respondent's letter (with your notes) nearby to refer to while you talk. 4. For safety's sake, Identify yourself only as "the "cat-lover who placed the ad in the Village Weekly," for example. Even If the conversation is going well, don't reveal any personal information and give your first name only. 5. If you get nervous on the telephone, consider writing out a brief "phone script." 6. Before you end the call, agree whether or not you’d like to speak again, and if you are planning to meet, when and where. 7. Exchange phone numbers, but don't exchange addresses. Explain that you would like to keep that information to yourself until you know each other better. 8. Do not bring your kids on the first date even if s/he suggests it or says s/he doesn't mind. 9. A first (in-person) meeting should be short, public, and inexpensive. Use our list in this guide to find dozens of fun places to take a date. 10. If you decide from a call that someone isn't right for you, don't play games or try to prolong the contact. Here are some things you could say if you"re nervous about rejecting someone: "We want different things." "We don"t have as much in common as I"d hoped." "You deserve someone who wants the same thing you do." Want to read more? Buy the Book!   THE ADVICE SISTERS WEDDING Q&A by Alison Blackman Dunham (aka. "Advice Sister Alison")  and Jessica Blackman Freedman, 122 Pages,  Weddings bring out the best, and the worst, in people. As long-time wedding advisors, The ADVICE SISTERS have compiled the best of the best (and most common) wedding questions they've been asked over the years by brides and grooms to be, their friends and relatives. The definitive wedding guide to help you sail smoothly from engagement right through to married life!  Don't get married without it! SAMPLE:  Visit The Advice Sisters Wedding Q&A or: Buy the Book!   EVERYONE WANTS TO MEET YOU!  How To Be More Sociable In Love, Business & Life  by Alison Blackman Dunham (aka. "Advice Sister Alison")  and Jessica Blackman Freedman, 37 pages, Meeting new people and making connections with them is one of life’s great pleasures. If you follow the tips, in this little but important guide, you will make a great impression, boost your popularity, and enjoy socializing more than you ever thought possible.  This is a "must-have" for anyone just starting out in the dating scene or the business world, and for anyone who feels shy or awkward walking in social situations. SAMPLE:  "Beyond the Opening Line" Most of us suffer from some anxiety before social events. If you feel panicked about going to a party or walking into a room full of stranger, your confidence (and the tips you’ve already learned about in this guide) will help you take control and make great social connections. For many people, knowing what to say is the hardest part of making new connections, but when two people meet, one of them must "break the ice" with a look, a smile or a comment. We know a man who greets everyone he meets, from the delivery man to the potential mother of his children, with a joke. This works well for him, because he’s very outgoing and he is very confident. He knows that he’ll usually get a smile and a positive reaction. But most of us wouldn't feel comfortable breaking the ice this way. What do you do to keep things moving past the opening line? For one, keep talking (make sure you listen, too).  If you’re not a natural at small talk, the easiest way to handle  it is to be up on current events. Read the newspaper, get online and check out what’s happening....or at least listen to the radio or turn on the TV news before you go out. Other sure bets are mentioning a book you are reading, the latest movies you’ve seen, what restaurants you enjoy, or your interest in a hobby or activity. These "safe" topics give people an easy way to learn a tiny bit about your likes and dislikes, without your having to give away too much personal information. Hopefully the person you are with will pick up the ball on some of these openers, and move them along, adding some of their own. You’ll want to find topics that are interesting to both of you, but they needn’t be shockingly memorable. Just like the opening line, the purpose of small talk is to keep the conversation moving along and to help you get acquainted. Want to Read More? Buy the book!     The Advice Sisters are also the authors of the landmark book to help adults find lasting love: RECRUITING LOVE-Using The Business Skills You Have To Find The Love You Want.  and the "Making New Connections" CD series.         Alison Blackman Dunham (aka. "Advice Sister Alison" is the author of the  The Everything Dating Book 2nd Edition  a "must-have" for singles of all ages, and makes a great gift:   VIEW THE TABLE OF CONTENTS and SEE A SAMPLE

YOU ARE THE PRODUCT-How To Sell Yourself To Employers by Alison Blackman Dunham (aka. "Advice Sister Alison")  127 pages, This amazing book answers the question:  “How can I beat the competition and get the job I really want?”  Whatever your experience, age or goals, you will learn how to "sell yourself" to others, and win the job (even if you are competing against people with more skills and experience).  You can get what you really want.  Great advice for putting your best foot forward in all aspects of your life, too! Sample:  from "(Surviving & Thriving in Interviews" Most of us use the phone so much that we take it for granted, but prospective employers want to know if you're trustworthy, intelligent and likeable. They're going to start making that decision right over the phone,  based on your voice and behavior. The following will help you perfect your phone performance! DO: answer your own phone by stating your name. Wait for the caller to respond before continuing. DO: keep a pad and pencil near the phone for jotting down messages, and for important names, phone numbers, addresses or other information critical to the job. It's also a good idea to keep a copy of your resume and generic cover letter(s) handy in case you need to refer to them quickly. DON'T: put someone on hold for 'just a moment', which turns into longer than 60 seconds. If someone does this to you, you are within your rights to hang up and call again when they are ready to talk to you. DON'T: answer the phone with anything besides "Hello" or another polite, basic phone salutation. You will not impress an employer if the first thing they hear is: "Whassup?" or any other familiar slang. DON'T: talk to a prospective employer if you're not ready. If someone calls from a company you can't even remember applying to, your cat is throwing up on your new couch, or there is anything else that is diverting your attention, the best thing to do is apologize for not being able to talk on the phone right then, ask to re-schedule the conversation, and get off the phone as quickly as possible. DO: act cordial, understanding and friendly to whomever you are speaking, no matter how tired you are or how frustrated they make you. You may soon be working for (or with) them! DO: speak in a moderate, clear, pleasant tone of voice. Have someone listen to your voice on the phone and critique how you sound. Note any major problems and begin working on making them better. DON'T: carry on two conversations at once..one on the phone, and another with someone else in the room. If you're 'hearing stereo,' put your caller on hold for a moment and remind the person with you that you are on an important phone call. Ask them to wait a few minutes so that you can focus on your caller and complete the call. DON'T: drink, eat, smoke, pop your chewing gum or perform any other audible tasks while you are talking on the phone. Your caller really can hear you shuffling your papers, washing the dishes or flushing the toilet! Each noise is magnified and is really disgusting! DON'T: cover the mouthpiece of the phone with your hand and yell something to another person. Hands are not effective muting devices. DON'T: speak in a monotone, scream, mumble, curse, use slang, be insulting or too familiar, use slang,   or whisper under your breath. DON'T leave long, complicated voice mail messages spoken so fast that it sends someone scrambling for pen and pad to frantically write it all down. If you don't reach the caller you'll have to talk later anyway, so bag the long story and just leave your name, date, time and a brief explanation of why you called. Want to read more? Buy the Book!   FEEL GREAT-BE GREAT While You Date by Alison Blackman Dunham (aka. "Advice Sister Alison")  and Jessica Blackman Freedman, 80 Pages, This little book is a "must-have" for anyone who is out there, looking for Mr./Ms. right. It has the best ideas, inspiration and advice to keep you motivated and feeling great while meeting someone special. "TAKE HEART IDEAS" offer inspiration, emotional support, and direct you to a new and positive path. TAKE ACTION IDEAS empower you, with things you can do to make positive, lasting changes. The book is  focused on singles, but much of the information will help everyone find   success and satisfaction! SAMPLE:   A NOTE FROM THE AUTHORS: As "The Advice Sisters®, we receive piles of letters from singles who want to know the secret of to how not to feel so bad when things don’t go as well as they’d like in the "meet market." In fact, we’d be millionaires if we had a dollar for every time someone asked us: How can I cope with "dating downers" and stay motivated to keep dating even when it’s not going well?" We really wanted to provide you with something "new and different" and didn’t want to repeat stuff you can already get out there on the market.  We were really surprised how few genuine "self-help" books there are offering real advice to adults on ANY subject with real answers, real strategies and real inspiration. Most traditional "dating books" discuss what to "do" to attract someone new or how to be a good "date" but none of them focused on the reality of how anxiety producing (and even depressing) dating can sometimes be, or what you can do to make yourself feel better when your dating experiences are bringing you down. The premise of FEEL GREAT/BE GREAT While You Date is as simple as this: If you’re going to be successful in finding the love you really want, you've got to maintain a positive attitude about dating, find satisfaction in working towards that goal, and believe that you will reach it if you stick with it. FEEL GREAT/BE GREAT While You Date is loaded with activities, ideas, inspirational stories tactics, and fun, unique tools, designed especially to help you reach your goal of meeting someone special. To make it easy to navigate the book, we divided the content into two major sections "TAKE HEART Ideas" and "TAKE ACTION Ideas." The TAKE HEART ideas offer inspiration and emotional support. We use real-life stories to reinforce the notion that those of you who are feeling unhappy or discouraged are not alone in your feelings. Furthermore, we will help direct you to a new and positive path, with concrete suggestions for feeling better fast and moving forward. The TAKE ACTION ideas empower you to take direct action, with things you can physically DO, to make positive, lasting changes in your life. As you read through the book you will continue to be reminded in an upbeat, tangible, way that dating is just a means-to-an-end... no more than just a process that everyone has to go through to find the relationship they really want...........We want you to feel great, and be great, while you date! Want to Read More? Buy the book!

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